Dealing with infertility is challenging in itself. Add yearly holiday stress and your family asking you and your partner about your fertility journey— you may end up with a case of the holiday blues. Navigating infertility during the holidays can be overwhelming and suck the warmth out of the “happiest time of the year.” Luckily, there are tips and tricks to ensure the holidays remain a joyous season. 

Coping With Infertility During The Holidays

The holidays are usually a time to celebrate and spend time with family. In some instances, this may be a reminder that your goals of starting your own family have not yet come to fruition.  Here at Carolinas Fertility Institute, we understand the emotional pain of experiencing infertility during the holidays. That’s why we’ve compiled a list of 5 tips to help cope during this holiday season. 

  1. Decide What To Disclose

If you are dealing with infertility during the holidays, it is important to discuss with your partner what and how much you want to disclose regarding your fertility journey. Do you even want to share that you’re having trouble conceiving? Decide beforehand what information you want to share, and how much information is too much. This way, you and your partner can be on the same page when the questions come about. 

  1. Reach Out For Support

If infertility during the holidays creates unmanageable stress, remember you don’t have to go through it alone. Reaching out for support is a brave act that can help you feel better about your unique situation. If you are having trouble finding an infertility specialist, visit and click on the button labeled “Find a Healthcare Professional” for a list of doctors and mental health professionals in your area.

  1. Be Kind To Yourself

Negative self-talk can directly impact your mental well-being. If you are faced with infertility during the holidays, try recognizing this and changing the way you speak to yourself. Some ways to quit negative self-talk include:

  • Catch yourself when you’re the critic
  • Address negativity and turn it into neutrality 
  • Repeat positive affirmations every day
  • Focus on what you’re grateful for

By doing these few small steps this holiday season, you can treat yourself with kindness and compassion during these trying times. 

  1. Don’t Be Afraid To Say No

Boundaries are important, but they are especially important when dealing with infertility during the holidays. Don’t feel guilty about skipping events that may evoke negative feelings. Remember, your priorities should fall on you and your well-being! Alternatively, if you do end up going to events where the topic of children comes up, don’t be afraid to redirect the conversation or let everyone know you don’t feel comfortable talking about this subject.

  1. Let Go Of Expectations

Although the holidays are often associated with joy, family, and festivities, reality sometimes has a different script. Let go of the expectations of this holiday season and let yourself exist in the emotions and reality you are currently experiencing. Remember, you are doing nothing wrong by prioritizing yourself and your needs!

Holidays are a special time of year, but they can also be a stressful time of year. Navigating infertility during the holidays often adds another layer to the pre-existing pressures of the festivities. At Carolinas Fertility Institute, we are dedicated to helping you build your family with personalized care and attention. We provide the latest and most technologically advanced treatment options for fertility. If you are struggling to get pregnant, we can work with you to devise a personalized treatment plan. Call us at (336) 448-9100 to make an appointment in the Triad or (844) 686-2233 for our Charlotte office.